Employer - Employee relationship....

Do I like my boss?
Or
Does my boss like me?

I donno....seriously!!

I don't know if I don't like my boss or I just simply don't understand her.
Our conversations seems to end up in a different end-point, not to mention coming to a common understanding to make decisions. I'm always questioning myself, is it me being paranoid again or it's just her who is not open to comments and feedback.

Today I had my 1:1 session with her, the session where we talked about my achievement in the last 12 months and getting into the same agreement that the goals set have been completed and closed. I really have tough time to make her understand my view. I explained and explained, conclusion is:

 Boss: "OK, you can think again and revise the completion % but I don't think it's 70% completed. To me, it's just 30%"

Me: "OK, if that is how you put it, then I don't think I have any choice"

It is always this way, whenever we discuss about anything, when she failed to convinced me or she is out of vocab to you (btw, she is a Taiwanese), she will just put a full stop to the sentence and say, OK, I still think it's like this and not that...period.

To me, I think she is a nice person but I don't think our personality can click in terms of working. I came across an article on the web which gives some tips on how to work effectively with your boss. It goes:


Tips # 1:
The relationship between you and your boss is likely a circular relationship: if you like your boss, your boss likes you; if your boss likes you, you like your boss. Overlook actions of your boss that may disappoint you and be conscious of how you react to conflicts

Tips # 2
Suit his/her work style. Understand your boss’s thought processes, preferences and pet-peeves. If your boss is hands-on, favors raw data for making decisions, resists confrontations or avoids risk, you must be sensitive and suit his/her style. You may be able to sell your boss on the merits of changes to his/her style; however, realize that change takes time and is not guaranteed.

Tips # 3
When your boss succeeds, you succeed. Understand your boss’s role, his/her strengths, weaknesses and goals. Ask how you can support his/her objectives and the organization’s goals. Do not assume his/her expectations of you. Communicate continually by detailing progress on your assignments and by giving prompt feedback on challenges you face and asking for support.

Tips # 4
Realize that one hand cannot clap. Fundamentally, people are different; their perspectives and work-styles are different. You are very lucky if you have a boss who is competent and supportive—somebody who is genuinely interested in your assignments and career advancement. Recognize early if things are not going well; be open and straight-forward in communicating your thoughts and if changes you made have not improved the situation appreciably, be prepared to leave


I doubt if I can even past for Tips # 2. Anyways, will continue to try till the day she pushes me off the limit. Then it would be my turn to say :

Me: NAH.....do it yourself la.....

Wishful thinking? I hope so coz I don't wish for that day to come so soon..... I like my company, just don't like the people that I work for...... Wish me luck...